Relationship - the most powerful word in the lexicon of success for every human being, is something which most of us think the least about in today's fast paced world. On the contrary, I attribute ones success to ones ability to minding relationships well.
A relationship need not necessarily be the bond between lovers, or parents and children, siblings, or even friends for that matter...relationship is a bond which can even bind two strangers together in a virtual belongingness.
As Anthony Storr has rightly quoted, "it is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.". When we are not bound by any need or want in a relationship, that is when it becomes the most fruitful.
Relationship doesn't always, demand great virtues. At times we feel, we just need to cuddle up to someone when we feel low, and feel comfortable even without uttering a word. Sometimes we feel the need for someone to just run the fingers through our hair or simply kiss our forehead.
Sometimes, we need someone to just call when you get bored, to sneak you junk food when you are sick, to understand that you mean the opposite of what the other is saying. Someone who will know how to cheer you up, who won't have overwhelming expectations of you, who will feel comfortable around your family, just someone who truly enjoys your company as much as you enjoy his or her.
Sometimes you just feel that you want someone to wrap you in their arms and make you feel safe and someone to just dry your tears. Sometimes, you feel like hearing from someone that he or she keeps awake all night just to see you sleep peacefully, someone who smiles at the cuteness of your angry face...relationship doesn't mean giving away gifts galore, but means only these tiny comforts of life.
But that does not necessarily mean that you look to be in a relationship for these unsaid necessities of life. The measure of success today is measured by the depth of relationship that a person has shared with the mortals of his world.
Mutual Respect and trust are the two main essentials of a healthy relationship. At times, we humans, forget these basics and look for the main ingredient of a perfect relationship and in the bargain, feel demotivated due to the absence of solution.
In order to have a perfect relationship, we must first believe that we are in a perfect relationship, which is undergoing some momentary stress, and that we do wish to continue in the relationship. We must not use relationships to fulfil our expectations. Rather, we must learn to give our 100% to any relationship. We must work towards making a relationship work and remember that four fingers are pointing at us before pointing one finger at the opponent.
But the most important solution to have a picture perfect relationship is to step beyond the concept of "me" and feel the power of "us"!
Now go ahead and make the right relationship for yourself...being in a right relationship doesn't mean being with the perfect person always, but making the most of your time, whoever you are with.
